Category Archives: Wedding Wednesday

The End of a Season

I feel like it’s the end of December, and I’m closing the chapter to what feels like an insanely busy, emotional, crazy, roller coaster of  a year.  With that, comes the window where I can see clear to the upcoming year and it looks like it’s full of great things and opportunity to make new goals.  (By the way, do you ever wonder why we always wait until January to make new resolutions?!)

But it’s not the end of December.  However, I think I’m closing the chapter to a crazy season in my life.  It’s been emotional, no doubt.  I’ve experienced the happiest of times and the saddest of times in the past 11 months.  I’ll try to give you a glimpse of a timeline of the past, nearly a year:

11 months ago, my grandpa Grimmius was diagnosed with Acute Leukemia.  11 months ago, and 2 days after Grandpa’s diagnosis, I went on my first date with the man who I now call my husband.

Me, cousins & Grandpa on Thanksgiving Day at Stanford Hospital.

10 months ago my grandpa came home from Stanford after receiving a month of intensive chemotherapy treatment, and the prognosis was not a positive one.  Doctors only gave him 2-3 months of life maximum.  9 months ago, Phil (who was my boyfriend at the time) left for Kenya for what was supposed to be 4 months.

8 months ago, Phil surprised me by coming back from Kenya 3 months early and proposing to me on Valentine’s Day.  8 months ago, Grandpa was still miraculously alive and beginning to feel a little better as each day went on.

4 months ago, we received the news that through the power of God, Grandpa’s Leukemia was gone!  There was no sign of it in his blood!

3 months ago, we received the news that his leukemia had returned.  With only 1 month left until Phil & I got married, I prayed fervently that Grandpa would be able to be at our wedding and not feel too crummy.

2 months ago, Phil & I said “I do,” and our beautiful day was filled with so much joy!  We were surrounded by family & friends…and GRANDPA!

2 weeks ago Grandpa lost his battle with leukemia with our Grimmius family by his side.  On exactly mine & Phil’s 2 month wedding anniversary, we laid Grandpa’s earthly body to rest, celebrated and remembered Grandpa’s life and legacy.

In a nutshell, the past 11 months of my life have been C.R.A.Z.Y.!!!!!  I’ve been filled with so much joy, but yet so much sadness.  This year has been wonderful though, and I’ve been surrounded by the best family & friends any girl could ever ask for.  I’m blessed, to say the least!  But with all that, I’ve been slacking in the area of my work.

I haven’t had much enthusiasm for agriculture, or sharing fun life stories with you guys because well…I’ve had a lot on my mind!  And Grandpa’s passing away, I feel in a sense, has closed the chapter to this crazy season of my life.  I realize that there will be plenty more of those seasons and years, but for now I think that I am slowly starting to see clear again.  And although it’s not a new year, it seems as though it’s the start to a new season.  As each day continues on, I can slowly feel my creative juices start to flow again.  It’s hard to explain, but I wanted to write today to explain why I’ve been MIA in so many areas of agriculture and let you know that I’m in the process of making a come back!  😉  I also know that many of you have lifted up my family in thoughts and prayers during these past few months, and I want to thank you so much for doing so.  I have felt them all!  Love you guys.


Wedding Wednesday: The Final Countdown

Wedding Wednesday is here again!  4 months ago when I began blogging on the whole wedding topic, I felt like my wedding date would never get here.  And now here we are, and I am going to be marrying Phil in 10 days!!!!  And while we have so much finished for the wedding, it still feels like we have so much to do!

In the midst of all of this, Phil and I just purchased a home, to which we received the keys last week Friday.  We’re pretty pumped…”pumped” might not even describe how excited I am about it, but you’ll just have to trust me on it!  So we’ve been unpacking boxes, planning a wedding…and in the meantime, praying for Grandpa to make it in good health until the wedding and praying that it is not so scorching hot on August 4th!

As of right now, the forecast is calling for 99 degree weather next week Wednesday – Friday.  Yikes!  So, it’d be really nice if there was a random 10 degree drop in the forecast for next week Saturday…just sayin’.

I can’t wait for family from out-of-town to start rolling in.  I can’t wait to have a girls night at my bachelorette party on Thursday and I can’t wait to marry my best friend on Saturday!  It’s all so fun!

I’m off to a meeting now (for the wedding, of course!) so I’ll close it up.  Keep Gramps & cooler weather in your prayers…it’s appreciated!  🙂  Ciao bellas.

Wedding Wednesday: RSVP Etiquette

Only 17 days left until August 4th!!!

We are officially at less than 3 weeks.  Which is crazy.  Sometimes I have to go through the next 3 weekends in my head and say, “Ok Bri, this weekend you have a bachelorette party for Stace to go to, and then the following weekend you & Phil are getting the house all settled & put together, and then the weekend after that…YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED!”  I have a conversation like that with myself…at least twice a day.  It’s not that I forget my wedding date, it just seems surreal how close it is!

But anyway…wedding is soon.  Check.  Now, today I’m going to discuss RSVP etiquette.  Nothing that I’m about to say is rocket science, it’s just plain & simple, things that you should do & should not do when responding to a wedding invitation.  Some of the examples that I give are things that I’ve seen on my response cards, and others are stories that other brides have told me that they saw on their response cards.  Ok, here we go!


  • Put your name on the line where it says “M” followed by a line.   That is the spot for you to put the names of the guests that are attending.  I have heard stories from quite a few brides who received response cards back in the mail where 2 people said they were attending…but they forgot to write their names down!  So which 2 people out of the guest list of 400 are coming?!
  • Put your full names on that line.  In other words, don’t put “Mr. & Mrs. Flores” because there’s always a possibility that you’re not the only “Mr. & Mrs. Flores” invited to the wedding.  Also, put everyone’s full name.  Such as “Mr. Ernest S. Flores & Mrs. Sharmae Flores.”  If you just put “Mr. & Mrs. Ernest S. Flores” there’s a chance that the bride doesn’t know your spouses name & therefore won’t know what to put on your seating assignment.
  • Put the number of guests attending the wedding next to the little area that says “Will Attend,” “Accepts,” “With Pleasure” whatever.  Don’t just check it…put a number.  If you cannot attend, then check marks or x’s are acceptable.


  • Invite someone who isn’t invited.  Look at whose name(s) are on the invitation.  For example, if it says, “Mr. & Mrs. Ernest S. Flores & Family” then guess what…the whole family can come!  If it says, “Mr. & Mrs. Ernest S. Flores” then only the 2 people named are invited.  If it says, “Mr. & Mrs. Ernest S. Flores & Austin Flores,” then only those 3 are invited.  Austin does not have a guest allotted for him.  If the invitation were to say, “Mr. Austin Flores & Guest” then Austin may bring a guest.  Again, if your name is not on the invitation, you are not invited to the wedding.
  • Invite yourself to a wedding.  If you think that you were supposed to be invited to a wedding, say that the bride or groom is family & you are certain that you’ll be invited to the wedding, but you didn’t get an invitation.  Do not go over to Cousin Suzie’s house & add your name on their RSVP card.  It is possible that the engaged couple forgot to send you an invitation and fully meant to invite you.  In that case, call the bride or groom…or one of their parents & ask if you were invited.  To which you, wait for your own invitation or give a verbal response.

Simple, right?  I don’t even know if these are official rules of response etiquette, but I’ve experience enough of these & heard enough stories from other brides to know that for every wedding, almost every single one of these rules is broken, and if everyone could just follow these simple do’s & don’ts, there wouldn’t be so much turmoil in a bride’s life when it came to the guest list!

On another note, one of my bridesmaids/best friends from high school, and myself baked over 180 peanut butter balls & mini cheesecake bites this past weekend for the dessert bar that we’ll have at the wedding.  We sample both items, and by the end of our baking time, our feet were hurting, as were our stomachs from eating way too many sweet treats!  But we’re glad to report back to you, that both items taste exceptionally delicious!

Renae & I modeling our tasty “Belko Buckeyes” aka the peanut butter balls

That’s all I’ve got for today…happy Wedding Wednesday everyone!

Wedding Wednesday: DIY Ribbon Send-Off

I’m pretty thankful for Pinterest.  But then again…who isn’t thankful for Pinterest?

If you’re reading this thinking, “Pin-what?  What’s she talking about?”  You should probably go here right now.

Pinterest is like, the most brilliant collaboration of all things good on the internet.  Now, when I first got engaged and had a wedding to plan, Pinterest was both a downfall, as well as my greatest helper.  Thousands of ideas were at my fingertips without the requirement of me searching all of the World Wide Web to find them.  However, it was too many ideas, and the problem was that none of them seemed to fit together.

So, I first needed to narrow down my wedding theme (See Wedding Wednesday: 4 Months Exactly for wedding theme), in order to narrow down my Pinterest results.  Once I had a theme picked out, I was golden!

Pinterest aides in the inspiration of a lot of Do-It-Yourself (DIY) projects, allowing us brides to appear to be ridiculously creative  on our wedding days, but really…we found it on Pinterest!  One idea that I found, and loved, was the concept of a “Ribbon Send-Off.”  Think…throwing of rice or confetti…or sparklers…something along those lines.  Now, instead of the previously mentioned items, picture the bride & groom walking through a tunnel of guests twirling colorful ribbons.  It’s pretty cute, and I decided to use that in my own wedding!

So, my mom & I have been busy tying & gluing ribbons to the end of Popsicle sticks for guests to wave Phil & me to our getaway car with.  I’m excited to see some of the Ribbon Send-Off pictures…I think they’ll give Raquel Leal Photography some pretty sweet shots!

The ribbons for the ribbon send-off are pretty simple: First you cut off about 2 feet of ribbon.  Tie the ribbon in an even knot around the Popsicle stick, put a dot of glue on top of the knot, and tie one more knot over the dot of glue.  Also, be sure to take a lighter and very carefully burn the ends of the ribbon to prevent fraying.  Don’t set the ends on fire though…then they turn black & smell really bad.  And that’s it…1 ribbon down…lots more to go!

Some of our ribbons for the Ribbon Send-Off

Happy Wedding Wednesday!  The countdown is down to 24 days 🙂  Not that I’m counting or anything!

Wedding Wednesday: Grandpa

Last week I mentioned that I’d be revealing some DIY crafts for the wedding.  However, there’s been a certain change in events in my family’s life in the past week…so now there’s going to be a little change in topics on today’s Wedding Wednesday post.

8 months ago, 2 days after Thanksgiving, Phil & I went on our first date.  Also 8 months ago, the day before Thanksgiving, my grandpa was diagnosed with an aggressive form of Leukemia.  Grandpa went through a month of intense chemo at Stanford, and he was able to come home on Christmas Eve day.  When Grandpa came back home from Stanford, he didn’t want to do chemo anymore, so he went on hospice.  Hospice gave him a time frame of about 2 months to live.

In that same 2 month period, Phil went to Kenya and came back.  We got engaged and Grandpa was around to celebrate our engagement with us!  Grandpa continued to gain more and more strength as the days went on and the effects of the chemo faded.

About a month ago, (7 months after Grandpa came home from Stanford), my Grandpa had a blood test done to see how he was looking cancer-wise.  Test results returned to reveal to us a miracle from God:  Grandpa was cancer-free!  I need to point out that after a month of chemo, when Gramps came home from Stanford, his blood tests showed that there was still cancer in his blood.  He didn’t receive any chemo treatment between that blood test & the blood test that told us he was cancer-free.  It really, really was a miracle that science cannot explain…but the power of God can!!

Grandpa & Grandma 🙂

Last week, Grandpa & Grandma went on a trip to Southern California, and when they came home, he started feeling kind of “puny,” as Grandpa likes to say.  He was running a fever, but we figured he had just done too much.  A week later, his fever remained.  So Grandpa & Grandma went to the doctor on Monday and they did some blood tests.  The tests revealed that Grandpa’s blood cell count was back up, telling us that his cancer has returned.  We’re all very sad about this, but we know that God is in control.  We know that He hears our prayers, and we’ve seen him do an awesome miracle already.  So we continue to pray and try our best to trust Him through life’s roller coasters!

Phil & I get married in 31 days.  31 days!  The time seems like it will just fly by when I look at my list of to-do’s that I need to accomplish before the wedding.  On the other hand, 31 days seems like a really long ways away knowing that Grandpa’s cancer is back, because I’ve seen how fast cancer can move!

Phil & Me!

So, this Wedding Wednesday, I have a request of all of you who are reading this:  Please pray for Grandpa!  Pray for another miracle, that God will keep him healthy for the next month.  Pray that Gramps will be here on this earth on August 4th and that he’ll be feeling well and will be able to enjoy such a sweet day in our family’s lives.  And tell everyone you know to pray!  This Wedding Wednesday, I’m calling on all prayer warriors!  Because Phil & I…and Gramps himself would love nothing more than to all be together on our special day.  🙂

Wedding Wednesday: RSVP Cards

Wedding Countdown: 38 Days

I skipped out on Wedding Wednesday last week because it was pure madness!  Last week we put the invitations in the mail, which was one of the happiest, best feelings ever!  Having the whole invitation situation loom over my head was becoming a bit daunting.  But, they’re done.  El fin.  Finito. Finished.

And now, I feel like I’m ready to tackle the rest of my wedding to-do list!  I’ve totally been in a bit of a wedding planning rut the past few weeks.  I haven’t had any desire to do wedding stuff & all I’ve wanted to do is hang out with Phil!  (which, is probably a good thing since I’m marrying him and all!) but I just needed some motivation in the whole, planning department.  Thankfully, one of my friends got married this past weekend & her beautiful, fun wedding inspired me to hit the wedding plans hard again.

At this point, what I’m most excited for is to receive our RSVP cards back in the mail.  I put a line on the bottom of the RSVP card that says, “One Song Guaranteed to Get You on the Dance Floor.”  I’m p.u.m.p.e.d. to see guests’ responses to that!  So, if you are holding on to your RSVP card, send it to me!  I can’t wait to see it!

I love ecstatic responses like the one that my sister-in-law put on her RSVP card! Kelsey, I liked your response too! 🙂

So, that’s what’s going on this week.  I’ll be talking about some DIY crafts on next week’s Wedding Wednesday!


Wedding Wednesday: Shower Time

This past weekend I had my first shower.  My future mother-in-law and sister-in-law threw it for me.  It was so beautiful!  They did a “picnic” theme, as it was on a picnic that Phil asked me to marry him.  We had delicious tea in canning jars (I love canning jars!) and the picnic theme was accented in light turquoise.  It was perfect.

I enjoyed my time meeting the ladies that have watched “Philly” grow up through the years.  That was one thing that I noticed, they clearly have all known him since he was little because there was not one person who did not refer to my 25-year-old fiance as “Philly.”  I felt very showered with love by the fact that these women who had no idea who I was, took time out of their Saturday’s to meet me.  Not only that, but we definitely received some awesome gifts off of our registries as well!

This week continues to keep me busy with wedding plans as our invitation send-out deadline is next week Friday.  Yes, I’m kind of freaking out right now, thank you for asking.  Ahhhhh!  🙂  I’ll get back to work on those invites & leave behind a few pics from the shower for you to check out.

Ciao bellas.

From Left to Right: Phil’s momma, my ma, me & my grandma

Some bridesmaids & guest book gals….they also happen to be family 🙂

Socializing during the shower