We are officially at less than 3 weeks. Which is crazy. Sometimes I have to go through the next 3 weekends in my head and say, “Ok Bri, this weekend you have a bachelorette party for Stace to go to, and then the following weekend you & Phil are getting the house all settled & put together, and then the weekend after that…YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED!” I have a conversation like that with myself…at least twice a day. It’s not that I forget my wedding date, it just seems surreal how close it is!
But anyway…wedding is soon. Check. Now, today I’m going to discuss RSVP etiquette. Nothing that I’m about to say is rocket science, it’s just plain & simple, things that you should do & should not do when responding to a wedding invitation. Some of the examples that I give are things that I’ve seen on my response cards, and others are stories that other brides have told me that they saw on their response cards. Ok, here we go!
- Put your name on the line where it says “M” followed by a line. That is the spot for you to put the names of the guests that are attending. I have heard stories from quite a few brides who received response cards back in the mail where 2 people said they were attending…but they forgot to write their names down! So which 2 people out of the guest list of 400 are coming?!
- Put your full names on that line. In other words, don’t put “Mr. & Mrs. Flores” because there’s always a possibility that you’re not the only “Mr. & Mrs. Flores” invited to the wedding. Also, put everyone’s full name. Such as “Mr. Ernest S. Flores & Mrs. Sharmae Flores.” If you just put “Mr. & Mrs. Ernest S. Flores” there’s a chance that the bride doesn’t know your spouses name & therefore won’t know what to put on your seating assignment.
- Put the number of guests attending the wedding next to the little area that says “Will Attend,” “Accepts,” “With Pleasure” whatever. Don’t just check it…put a number. If you cannot attend, then check marks or x’s are acceptable.
- Invite someone who isn’t invited. Look at whose name(s) are on the invitation. For example, if it says, “Mr. & Mrs. Ernest S. Flores & Family” then guess what…the whole family can come! If it says, “Mr. & Mrs. Ernest S. Flores” then only the 2 people named are invited. If it says, “Mr. & Mrs. Ernest S. Flores & Austin Flores,” then only those 3 are invited. Austin does not have a guest allotted for him. If the invitation were to say, “Mr. Austin Flores & Guest” then Austin may bring a guest. Again, if your name is not on the invitation, you are not invited to the wedding.
- Invite yourself to a wedding. If you think that you were supposed to be invited to a wedding, say that the bride or groom is family & you are certain that you’ll be invited to the wedding, but you didn’t get an invitation. Do not go over to Cousin Suzie’s house & add your name on their RSVP card. It is possible that the engaged couple forgot to send you an invitation and fully meant to invite you. In that case, call the bride or groom…or one of their parents & ask if you were invited. To which you, wait for your own invitation or give a verbal response.
Simple, right? I don’t even know if these are official rules of response etiquette, but I’ve experience enough of these & heard enough stories from other brides to know that for every wedding, almost every single one of these rules is broken, and if everyone could just follow these simple do’s & don’ts, there wouldn’t be so much turmoil in a bride’s life when it came to the guest list!
On another note, one of my bridesmaids/best friends from high school, and myself baked over 180 peanut butter balls & mini cheesecake bites this past weekend for the dessert bar that we’ll have at the wedding. We sample both items, and by the end of our baking time, our feet were hurting, as were our stomachs from eating way too many sweet treats! But we’re glad to report back to you, that both items taste exceptionally delicious!
That’s all I’ve got for today…happy Wedding Wednesday everyone!